Week 23/52: What words will you use?

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Words are pretty powerful.  They show love, hate, compassion. They can be friendly and rude. They can make someone smile and someone cry.

But how much do you pay attention to the words you speak, not only out loud, but to yourself. And your daily words. Not just the words you use in an argument or a business meeting, but in every day casual conversation.

When my kids were young(er), I taught them to never use the words “can’t”.  I also encouraged my young athletes to use a different word other than that “C” word when they are having difficulty performing a task.

My kids have caught on so much so that I caught my son using it during a playful time of wrestling. Hannah was on the bottom and Noah was working his way around to keep her pinned to the ground. I hear her mutter the words, “I can’t breathe!”

Then Noah so gracefully chimes in, “Don’t say ‘can’t’.”

Over 40 years ago, Zig Ziglar was teaching the same thing.  He used the analogy of a stop light. We all say “stop light” or “red light” when referring to a traffic signal. He states that those are negative words because in reality, it’s a “go” light. Why? Well, what happens when the traffic light is out of order? Traffic stops because the “go” light isn’t working!


“[My friend] is so positive that not once has he ever had a cold, although he will admit he occasionally does have a “warm.” He is so positive he never refers to the “weekend” because that’s negative. He calls it the “strong end.””

In your next conversation, what words will you use to turn them positive? And how will those people respond and react? Will they smile? Laugh? Crinkle an eyebrow?

If you’re a parent, watch when you turn your negative commands (Don’t, Stop and No) to positive ones (try this, come help me, have this instead) to your kids.

Words are powerful. Many words spoken to us over the years stay with us, ingrained in the back of our mind, both positive and negative.

What words will you use?

I challenge you this week to exchange a negative word for a positive one every single day. Can you do it?

Reply back with what words you used and the impact it made.

Week 22/52: Back to School tips for healthy eating

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This past week, I sat down with a young mom (two small kids ages 2 and 4) and she shared with me her struggle to lose weight and be healthier. In talking things out, she just felt busy, uneducated and unprepared. (Common themes for many people struggling.) She is a teacher, out the door by 7:15am and home at 4:00. She trained her body to eat nothing all day and then come home absolutely STARVING. Feeling tired, rushed and dealing with the two little ones, she would snack on junk while she popped a couple frozen, boxed  dinners in the mircowave and serve ‘em up.

She knew this wasn’t the best thing for her family. She then reveal to me a pretty important thing.

“I have no idea how to cook. I’ve never been taught, I’ve never taken the time to learn and I just don’t have the time.”

As a mom of two, I know what it’s like to be busy with little ones and feeling like you don’t have time to spend hours in the kitchen like the Pioneer Woman.

“Why don’t you toss the chicken on a pan, put it in the oven for 12 minutes. Flip it and go another 12. You don’t have to stand over the stove at all. Play with your kids, clean, do whatever you want while it’s cooking. Take it out, toss it in the fridge and it’s done for probably the whole week!”

“See, I thought the only way to cook chicken was on the grill.”


While it may sound silly, for her, it was a legitimate reason. She has zero cooking knowledge and needed easy ideas to get her started.

Of course we talked about crock pot meals, cooking meat and using several different ways throughout the week. And of course we talked about her getting in at least 1 meal during the day so she wouldn’t end up starving by 4:00.

Back to School

It’s the second week of school (ok, so it’s the 4th week for us) for most kids and I’ve already heard several times, “I’ll have to hold off on _____________ (going to the gym, doing your challenge, eating better…) because back to school is just too busy right now.

NEWSFLASH: Will the school year get any less busy?? Will life get any less busy?

Between the crockpot, cooking in bulk on the weekend, and freezing meals for the future, there are countless ways and websites out there to help you. But here’s the key…

You have to make it a habit.

No, you don’t need to go nuts and have your entire month of meals planned ahead (I tried that, not my style). But you do need to get in the habit of what you are going to do on a weekly basis. Cook on Sunday while the game is on? While the kids are doing homework? While your (gasp) favorite show is on?


Busy is an excuse. It is. And you know what they say about excuses….